1. Observe that you’re not accepting reality. Red flags include thoughts such as “this shouldn’t be happening” and “why me?” “I can’t believe this!”. Other indications may include emotions like anger, bitterness, or annoyance.
2. Make an inner commitment to accept reality as it is.
3. Do it again. Sometimes acceptance may only last a few minutes before we start drifting back toward non-acceptance. Notice non-acceptance and turn the mind toward acceptance over and over again.
4. Develop a plan for catching yourself when you drift out of acceptance.