1. Observe willfulness. If you hear the words should, or why me, typically that’s willfulness. And simply label it: “Oh! Willfulness has shown up.
2. Radically accept the willfulness. Denying willfulness doesn’t make it disappear or go away.
3. Radically accept the willfulness. Denying willfulness doesn’t make it disappear or go away.
4. Try half smiling and willing posture. Relax your face, let the corners of your mouth raise, and turn your hands up. It’s hard to be willing when hands, arms and body are tensed and clenched.
5. When willfulness is immovable: Ask “what is the threat?”